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Our Grief Internet Family
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The Reason For Our Tears
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TO FORGET IS TO DENY

TO REMEMBER IS TO SURVIVE

OUR MEMORIES ARE THEIR SURVIVAL

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Santos C III
    Santos Colon  III
 
February 9, 1977-March 22, 2003
 
Murdered by a drug dealer  that had been out in front of  Michelle G. house   earlier that evening. Santos told him to get out  of our yard and that he had called the police.
Later that evening  after being told by the 911 dispatch
that they would not send  anyone , out he went  to get more info for  them.
He died a hero, trying to make our neighborhood  a safe place for us to live.
A 20 year old has been arrested  and charged with the crime of capitol  murder along with  3 other felony charges in connection  with this case.
We live in Virginia   and life in prison means no parole.
The jury found him guilty of capital murder and all other counts and sentenced him to life plus 28 years.
 
~Michelle G.

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Lisa M.

Lisa Makadegwan Marthaler
07/21/83-10/10/2002
 
My best friend, Lisa, age 19, was murdered by another one of our "friends" on October 10, 2002. She was so much more than my best friend...she was my sister, the one who knew all my secrets, and my main supporter. In 2001, she donated her bone marrow in 2001 so that I could survive the Acute Myeloid Leukemia that I was diagnosed with.

Cassie, her murderer, was sentenced to 98 years for First Degree murder, two counts of first degree attempted murder, and some smaller charges. She was also sentenced in Federal Court to two counts of Conspiracy to commit murder and conspiracy to commit attempted murder, and making terrorist threats.

She received two consecutive life sentences.

But that doesn't seem like  justice.

 I lost my best friend. I lost her love of art and her appreciation for everyone. I lost her companionship, and I lost the one person who was left in my life that had helped me to survive everything.

No justice will ever bring her back.

~Mary H.

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Chris S

 Christopher A. Starke
 05/27/75--10/19/97

My 22 yr old brother, was stabbed and murdered  outside of a bar in Candor, NY. His killer was Scott Dibella, who was from Virginia. It was a senseless killing, as my brother wasn't drinking, but the fight started over a pool game. Needless to say, many lives were turned upside down...me and my family sentenced to life w/out Chris, and his murderer was given 5-10 yrs for 2nd degree manslaughter. He's already served 6 yrs...although it would never have been enough, in our eyes.

~Ginny  H.

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David M.

David Michael Montgomery    

  October 27, 1973 to March 3, 2003, age 29.

Murdered in Savannah, GA in the early morning of March 3, 2003. He was murdered by Timothy Young of Claxton, GA. Mr. Young broke into the place that David was staying while working in order to burglarize the place for money for crack cocaine. David never knew that the attack was going to happen and was beaten in the head with a pair of channel locks, choked with the same channel locks after he was already dead and then his body was dump 5 miles away on the side of the road.

David leaves behind his wife Misty and daughter Sarah, mother and step-father, two brothers and two sisters. Numerous nieces and nephews and cousins. He was a NY State EMT and volunteer firefighter. He was also a member of the Binghamton Police Auxiliary.

April 2004 , Timothy Young  is sentenced to:

Malice murder - life imprisonment.
Robbery - 20 years
Burglary - 20 years
Aggravated assault - 20 years
Concealing the death of another - 10

All of these will run concurrent.

 

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Tom J.

  Tom Fredrick Johnson

  Dec.13,1952 - July 14,2002


July 18, 2002 Gazette Net

The FBI is still looking for a suspect in a fatal stabbing that occurred on Andrews Air Force Base Sunday evening. Air Force security personnel responded to an emergency call from the base commissary at 6: 55 p.m. and found Tom F. Johnson of Calvert County suffering from stab wounds. "He was found stabbed to death in his office," said Barry Maddox, spokesman for the FBI's Baltimore office. Maddox would not release any other details of the Johnson's death because of the ongoing investigation. Emergency personnel pronounced Johnson dead at 7:05 p.m. Johnson, 49, was the store administrator and a valued employee according to one high-ranking officer. "The wing is deeply saddened by the untimely death of Mr. Johnson," said Col. Dane Martin, 89th Airlift Wing vice commander. "As a federal employee for 32 years, Mr. Johnson made a valuable contribution." The FBI did not release any information regarding the suspect, and said that they were following all available leads. ***************************************

He was stabbed three times with a blunt knife used in the packing room of the store. Stabbed around 4:30 PM  , caught unaware,  he was almost immediately unconscious and death was within minutes.

Prime suspect ruled out in 2004  after a long investigation.Someday someone will break and the pieces will fall together for now, we endure .

Update Aug 2005:

The video cameras had not been working for several months , and alot of people knew this in the store including Tom and his superiors.

The case is  not classified as  cold , but is considered  "Pending Inactive".

~April Y-J ( wife)

http://apyjo-ivil.tripod.com

https://apyjo-ivil.tripod.com/thejohnson3

Walter C & Betty K
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Todd & Bryan C

Walter "Eugene" Crayton born Aug 5, 1941, age 62,

his wife Betty L. Klahr  born June 6, 1946, age 57

 and  grandsons:

 Todd Crayton Jr., born June
1, 1990, age 13

Bryan Crayton, born September 20, 1991, age 11

 all perished June 17th 2003

en route home to Newport Ore. after a chain
collision involving five vehicles on Interstate 80 near Laramie Wyoming.
They had just spend two weeks visiting Walters
Mother in Concordia Kansas and celebrated Todds 13th Birthday. Prior to that
they arrived there from an extended stay in Mexico on the Baja where they
took the boys for stays there and also traveled throughout the western
United States and Mexico.

Update: May 1. 2004

A Laramie judge has given a four-year jail sentence to Ivan Iloutchanski, the truck driver who pleaded guilty to four counts of misdemeanor vehicular homicide in connection with an Interstate 80 crash that killed four members of an Oregon family.

The sentence, one year in the Albany County Detention Center for each victim, is to be served consecutively and was the harshest possible for the misdemeanor charges. Iloutchanski was originally charged with four felony counts of aggravated homicide and faced a maximum of 80 years in prison, but he avoided a trial on the felony charges by pleading guilty to the lesser charges late last year. District Court Judge Jeffrey Donnell said when a person operates a commercial vehicle, he or she takes a special responsibility to protect the lives of others on the road by being attentive and keeping vehicles under proper operating standards. Iloutchanski failed to do that, according to Donnell, and other truck drivers need to be deterred from doing the same thing.

“I hope the word goes out on I-80 from coast to coast that we will not tolerate this sort of thing in our county,” Donnell said just before he passed the sentence.

Iloutchanski has been in the county jail for about 10 months and that time will count toward his sentence, the judge said.

Ron Pretty, Iloutchanski’s defense attorney had asked the judge for a sentence of “time served” and probation, saying the events were a tragic accident and the county jail — the only place to serve misdemeanor sentences — was not equipped to handle a four-year sentence. The defense played a home video of Iloutchanski’s parents, residents of Bulgaria, pleading with the judge to give their son probation. Iloutchanski was born in Bulgaria in 1973, but left the country seven years ago for the United States. Albany County Attorney Richard Bohling had asked the judge for the maximum penalty, saying the severity of the accident and the number of deaths warranted it. “Four years is not too much to ask for these deaths,” Bohling said as he held up photos of the victims. Killed in the crash were Walter E. Crayton, 61, of Seal Rock, Ore., his wife, Betty L. Klahr, 57, and grandchildren, Todd A. Crayton, 13 and Bryan A. Crayton, 11. The Oregon family killed in the June 17 collision had stopped their vehicle in the westbound lane of I-80 near the Grand Avenue interchange. An earlier crash had halted traffic, creating a line of bumper-to-bumper vehicles. The family’s vehicle, a blue Toyota pickup attached to a camper trailer, was crushed after the tractor-trailer driven by Iloutchanski pushed it into the back of another tractor-trailer, because it failed to stop for the string of halted vehicles in the way, according to police.

The prosecution said Iloutchanski was not attentive while driving and his brakes were not working at full capacity.

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They were all avid book readers and memorials have
been made at two different libraries but especially the boys school where
they have recently notified our family about the Todd Crayton Academic
Achievment Award ! It was presented at  the Waldport Elementary Schools
for one special kid and a gift certificate is purchased each month and thier
name goes up on the board. There's a plaque on the wall with the boys picture
on it I was told *smiling* I hope to one day get back to the coast and maybe
present an award. Also there were many books purchased as well as sets of
books with the funds and books ends with Todd and Bryans name on them for
the school library.

~Melisa Powers, Daughter and Aunt

Living on Forever in Me

 

 

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Rita & Ron M

Rita Marcussen  May 25, 1953 -Nov. 19, 1973
Ron Marcussen  ?-Nov.19, 1973

Sister Rita  20, and brother -in-law Ron 22 yrs. old  dissapeared and were both murdered November 19, 1973.
 Rita's skull found 11 months later.Ron's coworker
 acquitted in trial for Rita's murder in 1976. Case unsolved
until 1995when Ron's skull was found with evidence linking the coworker who  had died of natural causes just prior.
 
Case closed naming the coworker the probable murderer.
 
~Barb G.

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John C.

 John Cole 
8/18/82 -  7/21/01

John was murdered on July 21, 2001 at the young age of 18. He was shot in the back of the head while riding in a car leaving a drive-thru restaurant in Roswell. New Mexico. Gang members starting shooting and although they were not aiming at the car John was in he was hit. He was simply and innocent victim of a horrible and careless crime.John left behind many people who loved him so much and still miss him dearly. He will always be in our hearts and we will always have the memories but that can never compare to having him, which we can never have again. John was unique, kind, caring, full of laughter, loved life, and the best friend I ever had. I never knew anyone like him and he taught me so much about love and life to be so young. He was a part of my soul..... and my heart..... and that place will always remain just for him. I will always miss the future that included him as part of my life.  I miss him more than words could ever describe and I will for the rest of my life.

Justice has not been served yet for John's case, but I live every single day with the hope that one day we will have our day in court so that someone will have to pay for what they did to John and to the lives of those who loved him left behind to walk down this horrendous road of grief.

~Krystal D. , girlfriend 

http://www.nmsoh.org/Cole_John_Earl_mem.htm

Forever in my heart and deep in my soul......

Missing you every moment........

ALWAYS THE RAINBOW... ALWAYS THE DAWN... ALWAYS THE COURAGE TO KEEP GOING ON.....

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Sheldon S.

Sheldon Shand 
 3/9/58 - 8/13/93

My son  was murdered was brutally beaten and died of strangulation .There was a person arrested and due to sloppy police work he walked due to not having all his miranda rights read to him .The police believed there was more than one person involved due to Sheldons injuries but could get no leads.  I live in Brandon Manitoba Canada .

Justice was not served in Sheldon's case .

~Marge S.

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Vicky D

  Vicky Kay Dean
 Sept.14, 1965 - May 1, 2002.

 I live in Houston, TX, my sister Vicky was found with multiple stab wounds on April 22, 2002 she died in the hospital May 1.
 Her killer Ray McAuthur Freeney was found guilty of the capital murder of Vicky Dean and Kirchalynne Jones Aug. 29, 2003. 

Sentenced to death by lethal injection.
~Carol D.

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Gary W.

Gary Michael Walton
 2/21/74-11/26/02
Killed in a road rage altercation.
 
Gary called me Monday night, November 25th to say he had gotten a turkey at work and would bring it by in time for Thanksgiving that Thursday. I wasn't home so he left a voice mail. I returned his call Monday night and left a message. Tuesday morning I saw on the news that there was a road rage happening on Weber Road. Someone in a blue pick up truck had been killed.I felt immediately that it was Gary. I was so scared. I called him on his cell phone and got no answer but left a message. I couldn't see things clear enought on television and convinced myself I was being a worry wart and went on with my day. Around 11:00 my ex husband left a message for me at work. I knew instinctively what happened. That was when my world ended for a long time. Gary and the murderer, Ronald Rice, were yelling at each other up and down the highway. One had cut the other off. They pulled off on the exit ramp. Gary got out of his car first. A fist fight began. In a matter of minutes Ronald Rice pulled out a knife and stabbed Gary to death.He stabbed him by heart so he bled to death and supposedly died almost immediately. He did run back to his truck. He was found slumped over the seat with his cell phone in his hand. Ronald Rice, orginally from Kentucky, left the scene of the accident. The District Attorney found that there had been several other road altercations. He had been arrested previously on a knife threat but charges were dropped. His wife said he sharpened his knife every night. Gary had no weapon. The judge felt the states attorney's office did not present enough evidence for the case to go to trial and was dismissed. Ronald Rice stabbed my son to death, walked away a free man and never showed any remorse. Gary died two days before Thanksgiving. He was only 28 years old. 
 
 He was always very active and loved big wheels, bikes and cars. As a teenager he was an avid water skier and happiest at the lake or on a boat.  He was a hard worker often holding down several jobs at a time.   He didn't travel very much but a year before he died he got to go to Mexico which he was very excited about.  Every birthday of mine he  stopped to play Scrabble with me.  He loved animals and once had a pet monkey named Sammie.  He weight trained because he was always so self conscious about being thin.  This made him quite the ladies man. 
He had a wonderful giggle, and gorgeous hazel eyes.  I miss him very much. 
 
~ His Mom, Deb B. 

 

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Army Sgt. Keith L. Smette  25
 
 My big brother  was

killed in Iraq in Jan of this year.

Assigned to the 957th Engineer Company, 130th Engineer Brigade, Army National Guard, Bismarck, N.D. ; attached to Task Force All American died Jan. 24,2004  when his convoy was attacked by an improvised explosive device north of Fallujah, Iraq.

 

 ~Sarah S.

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Charlie L

Charlie Langston

 Sept. 8, 1945 - Mar. 27, 2003.

Charlie received an early morning phone call from a man asking him to come to his office and meet him early to do an extra business transaction. Charlie agreed, and when he got there he was confronted by 4 men. They tortured him with a stun gun and cattle prod, beat, and robbed him, shot him 7 times, and left him dead on his office floor. They stole his truck and used it in their getaway. The truck was recovered 2 weeks later. The police have interviewed two men they believe were involved in the crime. Both men have been released. Police cite a lack of DNA evidence to convict anyone, even though they have blood, teeth, hair and saliva samples. All the men wore gloves so there were no fingerprints. The police say the motive was robbery. Three of the men involved are career criminals and have spent time in prison. The 4th man is dead. The case remains open but not active.

Charlie was a world class athlete in many sports. He won many state and regional championships and also the world championship in archery, and received an honorary gold medal in the Olympics in archery, 'honorary' because he was endorsing products and wasn't allowed to compete. He traveled the world and all 50 states promoting archery. The week before he died he was inducted into the Archery Hall of Fame. He had a huge smile, loved to talk to people, and instantly made friends everywhere he went. The Charlie Langston Memorial Scholarship was set up in his honor, which awards college scholarships to students who participate in archery.

~Lucy L.

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Bill S. with 1st grandchild

William Charles Smith
Dec 13th 1955- Sept 14th 2001
 
Bill was shot 4 times by a man he knew only hours.
The man is serving Life plus 25 years for also trying to kill my son and his friend, after killingBill.
The man is 59 now I doubt he will ever walk out of the prison,  but it doesn't make us feel any better.
 
 
 
 ~Angela S. , always in my heart !!!

 

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Shaun D.

Shaun Joseph Donahue
12/17/77 - 12/14/02
My brother Shaun and a friend went out to a bar in Marina del rey, California on Dec. 13th, 2002.  Shaun was going to turn 25 years old that next week and he had a breakfast date with a girl that next morning so he wanted to go home and get some sleep.  His friend who was driving that evening decided to take a short cut through a not so desirable neighborhood in Venice so he could get fuel in his car before he dropped Shaun off at home.  As they drove down a street a SUV which was in front of them suddenly stopped.  They thought it was odd and couldn't figure out why this car would just stop for no reason.  All of a sudden a group of gang members surrounded their car and began shouting for one of the gang members to shoot.  Shaun's friend tried to escape by running into several different cars but it was too late.  Shaun was shot in the back of the head with a hallow point bullet.  Neighbors immediately called 911 and he was rushed! to the hospital.  My family was notified and we all went to the hospital to find that when we arrived it was to say goodbye to the baby of our family.  He was pronounced on the 14th of December and we as a family decided to donate Shaun's organs so that other families could have the opportunity to have their family members a little longer.....that is what Shaun would have wanted.  The police caught the kid who murdered my brother on July 17, 2003 and he sits in jail until the trial date which is is set for July 20, 2004.  Unfortunately the prosecutor doesn't believe they have enough evidence to hold up in court so they might try to plea bargain.  My brother was killed as an initiation into a gang.  I miss him more then anything......
~Melanie D.
Goodnight, my angel it is time to sleep
and don't you worry, in my heart, your memory, I keep